I’m still here

Although I haven’t been posting, there isn’t really anything I can do as I can’t afford a lawyer in Qatar and no one seems to want to take on this kind of case as it is rather a taboo subject. I do leave this site up for other mothers who have been victimized by Qatari men. Ladies DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT have a kid out of wedlock with any GCC men (Oman, Saudi Arabia, Bahrain, Kuwait, UAE and Qatar) they will escape and leave you all alone with your child.

The only was for a child to be claimed is having a marriage certificate or license, even if you become Muslim and wed in secret in a Mosque it will be accepted, as long as there is documentation. Their countries have no shame and don’t care what their citizens do outside as long as there is no paper trail.

Be careful and stay away from them, they are all no good and lie!!

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Saudi Children left behind back in the News

My friend sent me this today, again the Saudi issue is back in the news which is good as my site is linked to the site. Saudi seems to get the most air time, maybe Qatar is too small but I think all GCC countries deal with this taboo subject. Here’s the link https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-05-19/saudi-children-left-behind-by-their-fathers/101070434

I’m still not done yet, I will not give up!

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Adam Jones, British/Qatari boy taken by his father’s family has passed away in a car accident

I was sharing this story with a friend who is married to a Qatari that has abandoned her and her children, not surprising after what I’ve faced in court. When I searched I found one single article from Bahrain news about his passing, he was 22.

Not surprising, I haven’t found any article besides this one mourning his death even though he was a British and Qatari citizen. It was reported in Bahrain because his mother and sister live there to be closer to him. It’s ironic how as his father, he also passed away in an accident. In sha Allah he is finally at peace, my condolences to his family.

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20 Years have passed by

This time 20 years ago you were preparing to go back to Qatar for a little while and come back, at least that’s what you told me. The end of July, 2001 you stopped by my place one last time to see your daughter and I, you had to leave because your scholarship was canceled and your father refused to support you any longer and told you to go back home. You assured me you would come back for us and we would only be apart for a little while. Baby Shouq who was 1 1/2 watched as you left in Mohamed’s old red Toyota Tercel with no hub caps. The next day you called me at work on your way to the airport telling me how much you loved us and will come back to take care of us.

Days, weeks, months passed by, we would message each other, I would save money to buy phone cards to call you but they would only last 2 minutes. I spoke to your mother on the phone once, I really believed you would come back. You sent me gifts with your cousin Ali when he came to visit California, I still have them. I would ask your cousin about you, your friends, anyone who knew you. I begged the college to take you back, sent you the school visa but you never came back. Eventually the messages and phone calls stopped and I waited 2 years for you to come back. I didn’t want anyone else but you and I prayed every day to be with you. I will never know what happened in those 20 years because you hate me now and refused the DNA test because you know you would be the father and that would open a new case. You don’t even have any kids and never married, when I saw you in court I wondered if you were still into women or switched to men because of the way you treated me. How could someone you gave your heart and soul to treat the other like an enemy?

I only wanted to have an adult conversation with you but you wouldn’t give me closure and I will never have closure because I will never stop loving you no matter what. I know I must be crazy but the time I spent with you were the best years of my life even through the ups and downs. When I look at our daughter I see you, I just want to know why you hate me. We are old now, not much time left in our life, just give me a reason to forget you.

Here’s to another 20 years………….

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You will never rest

Yeah, I’ve been gone for a while, but always thinking and planning the next step. You’re just lucky COVID happened and there isn’t any way to travel. Don’t rest, always look behind you, I won’t let it go so easily.

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Don’t think I’m finished

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It’s been a while, I wonder if the stalkers in Qatar have missed me?

I might have lost the fight but you will never win the war. Don’t confuse my silence as giving up, I’m contemplating my next move. You will always be looking over your shoulder due to the guilt you have inside. London seems like a good place to try next…you can run  but you can’t hide.

Let your troll representatives have a field day with this post, I’ve got to keep all of you on your toes, I know you’re silently watching and waiting. Until the next meeting………

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The Verdict

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After 7 months of court dates, incriminating evidence and testimony my daughter’s case was denied. It’s obvious having a lawyer and wasta wins all of the time in this part of the world. Perhaps if I had a lawyer things might have been different but I put it all in the hands of God and it didn’t work out this time. I am not saying I will give up, not at all, as long as I have a breath in my body I will fight for my daughter.

I sleep well at night knowing I never lied once in a Sharia court, can’t say the same about other people but in the end there’s really only one judge and he will determine the punishment, I would rather lose in this world instead of the next. Some people are probably still stalking and following this blog so they can have something to file a case on, that’s good, I’m happy knowing some people will never have rest.

I will take a different route, I think it’s time to start bringing this problem to light in other Western countries where students study. In America we have council representatives as well as Canada and England. I will start trying to petition any GCC students from studying until a law is made in regards to the children they leave behind. If a GCC student impregnates a female, married or not the female should have the right to file a case in their embassies. I also feel the guilty student should not be able to leave the country until the case is solved, paternity is made and he should have to pay for the child.

Most of the time the children they have end up being supported by tax payers and by the government of the female’s country. Why should everyone else have to take care of a child when the father has ample means of supporting them. I made this website as a warning to females who think these GCC students ‘love’ them and instead run off back to their home country when they are done using the women because they know that back home under Sharia law the mother cannot lay any claims to him unless they were married.

It’s not over until it’s over.

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How paternity is done in USA

When a father wants to know if the child is their blood they go to court and get a paternity test. Even when a father wants to prove they are not the father they take a paternity test. It’s simple, if you are not the father take the test to prove it and all of this will disappear.

 

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National Human Rights Committee-Qatar

Mission:

‘Protect human rights and protect their dignity, mobilize the capabilities of society to understand and exercise their rights and duties, apply the values of social justice and tolerance, promote equality and non-discrimination, stop human rights violations, announce positions and prepare periodic reports that promote human rights in the State of Qatar.’

Here is the link to their website. If enough mothers of Qatari children complain about the actions of their Qatari fathers maybe the country will start to act upon this. The fathers should be held accountable as much as the mothers if not more considering they know they shouldn’t be having sex outside of marriage but continue to lie and cheat foreign women.

Maybe we should email the rulers of countries they visit such as USA, England and other western states and warn them of what the students studying there are doing. I think they should be stopped from going abroad and if they get a woman pregnant they should not be able to leave that country until they are held accountable, be it marriage or monetary compensation.

Women should be more vocal and stand up and let the world know what is happening or else we suffer in silence!

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Laws

Paternity law in Qatar has many words, yes Qatar is ruled by Islamic and Sharia laws that state:

” The UAE wording on how nasab is to be established to the father adds, after
the conjugal bed, acknowledgement, and [shar`i] evidence, that this can be done
“through scientific methods where the conjugal bed is established.” The Explanatory Memorandum, quoted below, sets out the relationship between the envisaged use of methods such as DNA testing and the jurisprudential rules on “the existence of the conjugal bed.” In the arguments for the need to establish nasab (rather than biological paternity), references are made not only to the range of rights and responsibilities that arise to individuals through filiation but also to the wider societal context:

This article refers to establishing paternity through modern scientific
methods such as DNA testing, which are scientific means of establishing
the definite relationship between the child and his [/her] father; but in
order not to make a mockery of the issues involved in establishment of
paternity, by making it a matter simply of establishing this relationship
through a medical test, the article has linked its ruling to the existence of
the conjugal bed in accordance with article 90. This is to prevent what has
happened in a number of cases, with sperm being taken from a man and
implanted into a woman without there being any shar`i tie between them.

Article Link

Most of the paternity establishment is made by “married people sharing a conjugal bed” and if the evidence of marriage is not there then there’s no way a man can be the father. We all know that a lot of Muslims, married and not married are sharing everything, not just ‘conjugal beds’ which means there are a lot of children born out of wedlock, mainly in non-Muslim countries and one day those children may come back looking for their fathers. I wish there was a training for students who will study abroad, warning them of the consequences of premarital sex. I would never want another love struck female going thru life wondering about their ex.

In February of 2015 there was an article about “Qatar moves to standardize use of DNA evidence in court” The article states:

“DNA evidence may soon be admissible in Qatar’s criminal courts after the nation’s Cabinet approved a draft law specifying how the powerful investigative tool could be used.

According to a statement released by Qatar’s state news agency, the draft law would make “DNA tests and data kept in DNA database to be authoritative in evidence unless proven otherwise.”

DNA evidence can identify a suspect with near certainty when samples such as hair and bodily fluids are collected and analyzed properly.

Two lawyers who spoke to Doha News said they have not seen such evidence presented in Qatar’s courts, suggesting it is not commonly used here.

Up until now, it was left to a judge’s discretion as to whether to admit DNA evidence, former Qatari justice minister Najeeb al-Nuaimi told Doha News. However, if passed, the law would require judges to allow DNA evidence to be presented, he said.”

And: “He added that he doubted it would have a great effect on the local legal system as DNA evidence is “usually used in murder, rape and other cases to prove paternity, which aren’t many in Doha,” he said.

“Defendants usually admit to the crime in the cases I’ve handled, so there was no need for DNA evidence,” he added.”

Article Link

And recently: Article Link

I’ve also found the Family Law outline of Qatar and read this:

Section 4
Proof of Parentage by Testimony
Article 93

Article 93
Parentage may be proved by the testimony of two men or a man and two women.

Article 94

Article 94
Proof of birth and identity of the Child born may be established by the testimony of one Muslim,competent witness, male or female.

Article Link

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